Are happy people more resilient? Are resilient people happier? Scientists, psychologists and philosophers are still debating on the correlation between happiness and resilience.
To what extent are they dependent and interdependent?
Based on my personal life and professional experiences, on my clients’ testimonies, as well as on research; my personal definition of resilience is the: “capability to bounce back, by using one’s resources and learning, as well as growing from one’s experiences.”
Since birth, infants have had a capacity to withhold distressful moments. Throughout the childhood years, the insti...
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Happiness is not a goal. It’s a by-product of a life well lived”. Her statement triggers self-reflection on your journey to happiness, to reach “a life well lived” aka your own work life harmony. The happiness definition we identify with is a scientific one as the “science of subjective wellbeing”. Research conducted at the University of California by Sonja Lyubomirsky reveals that sustainable happiness is determined 10% by your environment and circumstances, 50% by your genes, and 40% by your intentional activities, your life choices and behaviors.
This is part 2 of the Mindfulness article last published of the series on Work Life Harmony (Being Mindful with Emotional Agility and Resilience). As we discussed the part of what we need to be mindful, this article will focus on how we can become mindful and what kind of training on mindfulness we need to do to master it. A good starting point is to change short and long term habitual patterns and attitudes to be mindful, which can be incorporated in our daily business and life tasks.
Attitudes to cultivate mindfulness:
In today’s busy modern world, mindfulness is cultivated through a mindset, an attitu...
We spend hours being carried away by our thoughts and emotions, exploring, exploiting, confusing and depleting our mind, disposing of the inner self to an autopilot mode…loosing awareness of what our mind is thinking and doing in the present moment. But what if mindfulness could help you capture again that awareness, and gain control over your work life harmony?
First and foremost, what is mindfulness? It’s awareness. It’s about focusing your attention on the now, on your breathing, on your posture, and recognizing your thoughts and emotions internally and externally. Mindfulness allows you to gain self...
In today’s busy life, we all strive to live stress-free with more energy and time to accomplish a lot. However, let’s face it: who would not want a great balance between work and life, by having an optimal amount of energy for great work, health and wellbeing? The reality is, most of the ‘time-management’ habits that have been developed in the name of “saving time,” have led us to drain more energy, waste time, and be under loads of stress. Hence, we feel exhausted, drained, and we lack the right energy to keep on going.
Energy is the vital resource needed for an effective quali...
“I never have time” “I am always running behind the clock” “I need 10 extra hours in my day”….These examples are what we hear from clients when asked how they manage their day.
Indeed, in this age of abundance, no matter how rich or poor, no matter how successful you are, time is a constant and limited factor and yet a most valuable resource to all of us. That’s perhaps the reason why Google receives 111 million searches per month on time management. Therefore, the reality of time management affecting one’s professional and personal life will be discussed further to elaborate on the two factors it depe...
“Life Balance scares me,” said a client in a coaching session. Her facial expressions depicted a look of worry and fear of “the unknown.” When asked to try to define what this “Balance” meant to her, she responded that despite her efforts to understand it and read about it in different sources, she was confused and was afraid to apply it again because it did not work for her in the past. This dialogue with the client raised this concern about the possibility of others having similar issues regarding their work life balance. Therefore, the first thing to investigate further this concern was to conduct a...
Setting limits to discover your new freedom. Great idea but how? And what are the benefits?
Learn about the importance of knowing your limits and how it extends your freedom, shifting your mind into a growth mindset.
1. Having a super reserve = Having the choice.
The greater your reserves, the higher in command you are of your life, which means the greater your choices in terms of money, time, life style…and to be aligned with yourself.
2. Systematic renewal mechanism.
Creating a super reserve will improve its renewal systems: as you get closer to your reserve target level, you will already start reaping the benefits of creating reserves. And as you reach your set level, you will systematically install systems to protect and renew your reserves.
3. You need your super reserves in the 10 domains.